If you are saying 'my boyfriend dumped me but I still love him', I know how painful it can be. Especially if you had no idea that he was unhappy with the relationship. It can feel as if you were hit by a truck and you may think he is gone forever, but you can get him back, no matter how hopeless you might feel at this time. Learn to use this expert advice to get your ex back.
When your boyfriend dumps you, do not feel alone, because the same thing is happening to many other women around the world even as you read this. The good news is that 90% of all breakups are successfully repaired. You just need to use some male psychology and think as he does. You hear many women say that men are so hard to understand. You never know what they are thinking. That is not true at all. The only reason they say that is because they expect men to act and react the same as they do. If a man was to act the same as a woman, you might want him as a friend, but you would not fall in love with him. Opposites attract and that is what can make love so beautiful one minute and such a heartbreak the next.
Understanding how a man thinks cannot only help you get back the boyfriend that dumped you, but it can help you keep him as well. Women usually enter a relationship with expectations of it being long lasting. The relationship can become her whole life and if she is not careful, that very thing can make a man so uncomfortable that he has to break away. Call it nurturing, mothering or smothering, but by any name, it can make a man feel trapped.
Most men enter a relationship because they are attracted physically to the woman and the thought of a long term romance is farthest from his mind. A man is instinctively a hunter and his main purpose is conquest. This is a good thing for you as a woman because if you use the right tactics and keep him guessing, he will run headlong into your trap and then it is just a matter of keeping his interest peaked while you tame him.
If you look back at the beginning of your relationship, you will see that this is a fairly good description of what happened. Of course, you were not aware of it because most of these actions happen from instinct and not thought, but it works. You used male psychology to push his psychological hot buttons unconsciously once and to make the boyfriend that dumped you love you, it is only necessary to do the same thing again.
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i want my ex boyfriend back, advice on how to get him back?
so i have this ex-boyfriend who i like So much still and we ave been broken up for a year now and we barely even talk. when we were together we were So close and he was my first kiss and first of some other things…lol. and know i miss him:( so i came to school this ear and hes in one of my classes:) but he sits on the opposite side of the classroom:( how do i get his attention, he is a football player and he has billions of friends in that class.help?
Act like nothing is wrong. They’re not going to want you back if you’re acting depressed. Make sure you’re laughing a lot and pretending to have a good time. This is so hard because of the break up depression.
You need to make them come crawling back to you. By taking advantage of very specific psychological “hot buttons”, you can cause your ex to want you back. It’s actually not even that hard if you know what specific buttons to push.
You find more about using psychology to win them back here http://www.sodahead.com/living/how-to-get-your-ex-back—10-mistakes-that-you-should-not-make/blog-365563
When your ex gets back in touch, DO NOT start talking to them about your relationship right away! Even if they desperately wants you back, they’ve probably not ready to talk about the break-up. Instead, pretend as if you had never dated and treat them purely as an old friend.
This will help you put them at ease and allow you to gradually nudge them towards reconciliation rather than running the risk of scaring them away.
Any advice on how to get back together with my ex boyfriend?
Hi guys!
My ex boyfriend and I have known each other for a long time. Our families are friends, and I’ll probably be friends with him for a very long time. We dated for almost a year, but he broke up with me about three weeks ago over Thanksgiving break. He is a sophomore in college and I am a high school senior. He said he just didn’t want to have a girlfriend or be tied down. That being said, he assured me that there wasn’t another girl and he wasn’t interested in fooling around or being promiscuous. Needless to say, I am completely and utterly heartbroken.
We had, honestly, the most perfect relationship I could ask for. It wasn’t a difficult relationship, and we never fought. We were sexually active and very connected to each other. Even before summer break, when he was away at school, we were doing fine with the long-distance relationship deal. I have always been okay with it because of how much I loved him. He was worth waiting until breaks to see him. I just don’t know how to live my life now that he’s not in the picture. I was so comfortable with him and now I’m lost.
So, after that ramble, I’d like to ask for some advice on how I could get my ex boyfriend back. We, by no means, ended the relationship on bad terms. We’re still good friends, and he assured me that he’s still very attracted to me. So I know he doesn’t hate me. We already have plans to hang out together once Christmas break rolls around.
I’ve done what everyone tells girls that have been broken up with to do: kind of ignore the guy and try to move on with your life. It’s not working too well, because I don’t feel any better. Any advice would very much be appreciated. What should I do? Any sneaky moves I could make? I’m really at a loss of what to do.
And, please, if you don’t have anything to say that answers my question, refrain from answering.
Thank you to everyone in advance
Get Ex Back Now Tip #1 – Be Honest
How you implement this tip should all depend on the answer to this question:
Did you initiate the breakup or did your partner?
If you ended the relationship, maybe your ex won’t just take you back right away. They might want to know the reason for the breakup in the first place and then a reason for your changed mind.
Don’t lie or brush off the situation, just be honest. If you had someone breakup with you and it might have been a fault of yours, be honest and own up to your mistake. Then, show them why you have changed or are willing to do so.
Get Your Ex Back Now Tip #2 – Wow Them
I am not saying that this is why your relationship came to an end, but many of our relationships get stuck in a rut. After you have been together a few years or even a few months, things might start to get boring.
Was that the reason why your relationship ended?
If you want to get your ex back now, why not try doing so by wowing them with kind gestures. Not just wow them, but show you want to change and can spice up the relationship a bit. You can do this by sending flowers, mailing (as opposed to texting or emailing) a love note, showing up at their house with a picnic basket for a romantic picnic in the park, and so forth.
Do something you haven’t really done before or in a long time; something that will make your ex think “wow they do love me.”
Get Your Ex Back Now Tip #3 – Show Your Love
You might assume that wowing them and showing them your love are one in the same, but they are different. Wowing your ex involves doing neat things for them. Lets say that you want to get back your ex-girlfriend. If you haven’t given them flowers in months or ever, you might want to wow them with a bouquet of red roses.
Great idea, but actually showing your love is about more than giving a gift. It should be an expression and a physical action.
Great ideas include holding their hand in public, outright stating “I love you,” listing the reasons for that love, kissing them passionately, and so forth.
Get Ex Back Now Tip #4 – Get professional help.
The way to make sure your on the right path and that you say the right thing at the right time, so that you get your ex back now, is to follow a proven system. Go to the link below and check out the testimonials…they tell the story
I want my ex-boyfriend back, guys…i need advice!?
Okay, here the story…
when me and my ex-boyfriend were dating, we had alot of fun. And he would tell me i was beautiful, and that he loved me, and he would make me feel like i was the only girl in the world. But then… His jerk friendcalled me and told me he wanted to break up with me. I was depressed for 3 monthes. I didnt go out at all, or hang out wiht my friends. All i wanted to do was be alone and cry and listen to sad music! Then i got on facebook and he was on. He said “hey” to me like nothing had happend. all i said was “why are you talking to me?” and he said “i didnt want to break up with you!! It wasnt me he did that because he wants you, i never told him to break up with you for me.” I was so happy. And so i wondered why he didnt call or anything. Then, he said “will you give me another chance?” So i said “ofcoarse!”. Then as we started dating again, he tried to kiss me and it didnt feel right anymore.. I lost my love for him, and so finally i broke up with him. And i told him why, but he acted like I didnt. So then i called him and said” i need to see you, and talk to you.” and he said no and hung up on me. I started crying because i hadnt relized how much i loved him until he was gone. Now i don’t know what to do. I still think about him, all the time.
p.s. Sorry for all of the misspellings!
“and he would make me feel like i was the only girl in the world”
I’m sorry, I can’t stop laughing after reading that line!
I want my ex-boyfriend back. Advice wanted, please!?
My boyfriend and I split a couple months ago after being together for almost six years. A couple months before the break up, I was contacted by a mutual friend who told me my wonderful boyfriend was sleeping around and all these other, horrid lies. He told me I couldn’t talk to my boyfriend about everything (which should have been a sign) because they had rebuilt their broken friendship and I would ruin everything seeing he promised not to tell me about their conversations. In the end, everything was a complete lie and I have no idea why. This friend was always talking about my now ex, as if he was jealous (which I think he is)
All of the lies created doubt in my head which eventually rubbed off on my ex. We broke up because of the doubts and also, he saw that we were going to be to busy for one another seeing he is about to start his final year in college + thesis and I will be beginning graduate school myself. Weeks after everything happened, he found out about all the lies and drama that occurred from myself and one of my good friends (who went behind my back).
I always trusted him despite the doubt that was put in my head. I was hoping after him finding everything out, we would be able to work things out and maybe I could get that second chance. This is the 4th time he broke up with me and I took him back the previous 3 times, yet something in his voice made it sound as though there may not be another chance for us this time around. He doesn’t see us working for another 1.5 to 2 years because of school and it hurts ending here, on good terms, because of busy schedules. I know his gut tells him it won’t work, but I truly believe if you want it to work it will… I want it with a passion and I just don’t know.
I lost a great guy and I want him back SO bad. I gave my pleas and told him how much he meant to me and still means to me but he isn’t letting up with his decision. I don’t want to accept what I’m hearing but it seems as though I have no choice. He wants to stay friends and while I want him in my life and am willing to give it a shot, I fear watching one lucky girl take him away from me forever. I know it’s none of my business and that I need to let go but it’s soo hard.
Lastly, what makes it even harder is that I was told by one of his fraternity brothers that he has been hanging out with and possibly may begin a relationship with one who has been around the house. I was told that she slept with one or two other brothers and now with my ex; on top of that, I heard she is full of std’s. While he told me he was hanging around her due to her grandfather passing away, I was recently told again that something is going on. Do I believe him or his brother, thinking my ex is hiding the truth and doesn’t want to hurt me. I think if it was anyone else, I would be okay but I know someone who went to high school with her and she was the class slut, sleeping with everyone and anyone and I can’t seem to break that image from my head.
What should I do with this whole situation. I love him with all my heart and while I want to stick around and wait, he told me to move on. Also, his mother obviously doesn’t know we were active but I feel as though I need to warn her about this girl, even though I know there isn’t much that can be done. Would that be wrong? Please help! I love him so much, cry everynight for the past 3 months, pray the same prayer and wish him sweet dreams. Yes I may be obsessed but we were going to get married and I can’t let that go.
I was basically in the same situation. Before you do anything, Check out this website. It has many info that tells you exactly what to do to get your ex back. It saved my five year relationship. Hope that helps.
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Does any1 know anyways to win back an ex boyfriend? Guy advice would be great on this? PLEASE I LOVE HIM! thnx
he just broke up w/ me… needed a break i think(cuz i was the longest GF hes ever had by bout 3 months)… we went out for bout 4 1/2 months… im POSSITIVE he still has feelings for me but he says he’s confused and doesnt wanna hurt me-i dont mean physically-… but Im still majorly in LOVE w/ him… i know he likes it when girls play hard to get but iv never done that & im not sure how so advice on that would be great to!…. also he’s Mexican and im white so actions speak stronger then words, i mean he speaks pretty good english & im learning spanish so talking isnt any problem at all….. he treats me great & makes me happier then any1 else ever has, friend, BF, family any1(we were BFF b4 we everstarted goin out but i dont wanna lose my chance at getting him back as a BF) but any advice would be greatly appritiated…. ill take as much as i can get
dont die for him i think most guys like girls that are hard to get make sure he knows how much you love him then play hard to get basically, tell him you need time to ur self as well, and do thinks he has told you not to do when you was with him make him realise that he is not with you so he misses every thing when you were together etc, oh yeah dress sexy but make sure while your on break he doesnt get any physicall contact with you i mean no kisses,hugs,cuddles etc he defentally what all that back. .then again every guys differnt. hope it help but dont forget i can be wrong but then again mabe right.
Any advice on how to get my ex-boyfriend back?
My ex and i were dating for 2 years and a couple months. Well 4 months ago i broke up with him over something very serious. We stayed in contact and acted liked we never broke up. Well 1 month ago he starts dating this girl and it is a long distance thing. I told him i wouldn’t interfear. Well last month he called me 2 times. I haven’t called him. This month he called me 1 time calling me baby. He told me he would always be here for me and I could call him anytime. He told me he was hoping to see me. Before he asked this girl out a month ago he told me he was going to keep all the stuff i gave him and that he would love to try again with me. He told me if things dont work out her he would tell me. I am not waiting by no means but i really love him. We were engaged to be married. I want him back. Some friends told me it sounded like he misses me and may want me back. After that last phone call, he hasn’t called back. I didn’t cry to him or anything. I played it kool. Please any advice?
How should I go about getting my Ex Boyfriend back? Or should I? Advice and stories welcome?
my ex bf of six months broke up with me two weeks ago, he changed his mind four times about going back out before going to some girl exactly a week after we broke up. I tried to talk with him about working out our issues, but he won’t listen. I miss him a lot, I feel like there is more to him. We haven’t talked in like a week, we ended off saying we hated each other and I really regret that, but I was upset. At lunch (we are in Highschool) he will sit in the table by me with his back towards me, but will keep looking around his shoulder to look/listen, idk why. People tell me to give up and move on and that it’s over, that may be true, but my love for him still is… Advice, stories? Help…?
Advice about how to get my ex boyfriend back?
I’m in love with my now ex boyfiend..I want him back so badly.He’s all I think about and he’s even in my dreams.We still try to hang out and when we do he hugs and kisses me.He’s always saying how he loves me more than I would ever know.He thinks he’s messed up to much to take me back and that he doesn’t Deserve me. I’ve never had such strong feelings for someone like I do for him.He says we should just move on because he doesn’t thinks he can commit to me. I know he can but he just needs to try. I need advice on how to get him back..I love him with everything I have
How long do you keep the wall up? Ex-boyfriend advice?
Okay… so it’s a little embarrassing for me to say out loud, but I’ve been looking up ways to get your Ex boyfriend back. All of them say that you actually have to not act needy and obsessive what so ever. You need to basically cut all communication with them and ignore them. I’m calling this the “wall”. I’ve had it up for awhile now, and at first I didn’t think it was working because it just seemed to make us distant, and I felt like he was slipping away. But I stayed strong, and kept it up for about 4 weeks. And this last one I finally saw some improvement! He started looking at me a lot, and playing the songs he knows I love on his guitar during class (Did I mention I was in high school??) He tries to get closer to me then before, and is starting to try and get me to notice and talk to him. Maybe I’m just WISHING this is progress, but I sure hope it is because being without him still hurts just as much as it did when he cut it off. But I still have the wall up. He’s made no move to txt me or call yet so I don’t want to pull it down to early. But I’ve been wondering…. how long are we suppose to keep it up? When do we start txting them or picking up the phone?? Do we try and have a conversation with them if they talk to us first? I’m not being rude to him, I talk back but I cut the convo short. How do you know when to stop??? I’m trying to do everything right! I’ve already messed up enough before this including getting into a fight with him when he said he just wanted to be friends. I wish a thousand times I could take that back!! But I can’t, I can only move forward. Awhile ago right after the fight I tried to apologize but it wasn’t doing much, but at least he knows I’m sorry. I’m very lost with this process because all of the websites I’ve been too makes you buy their stuff, or pay to read what they have to say! It all sounds like it would be very helpful but I’m a Freshman in high school, I can’t buy that stuff, and my parents definitely wont be paying for it O_o Do any of you guys know of a website that doesn’t make you pay for anything?? It’s a lot to ask, but I’m really hoping for answers! Thank you so much <:) Your advice would help a lot!!!
I think that you should keep ‘the wall’ up for a little bit longer. Maybe a casual smile at him will make him text you. When or if he does, I wouldn’t text or call back for 5 minutes. So if he picks up, or texts back immediately, then you know he had his phone close to him to talk to you. Just keep everything casual. Don’t sit there and tell him you still like him after two days. Make him say it first. (: Good luck!
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I found this free website. I hope it helps.
how can i get my ex -boyfriend back?! dont telll me im stupid for wanting him back .. just need some advice!?
ok first off do not tell me that an ex is an ex for a reason and all that crapp ..
all i know is i miss him and i want him to come back to me and realize that what we had was amazing
basically we were together for over a year and he broke up with me because he wanted to be young and pretty much wanted to fuck other girls .. i was crushed. . now im definately better because i am so independent on my own but i miss having him there .. i dont just miss the company but i miss him! i tried the no-contact thing but i see him at the gym all the time … ive tried to be all happy and that but he hasnt called me lately .. its been over 2 months now and im so scared hes gonna find someone new even though he said he didnt want a girlfriend
all he does now is party, drink and do drugs and try to get with other girls.all my friends tell me he is a big slut but i still want him back and it sucks
ive been working super hard on by body and im gettingg tanned! has anyone won back an ex and how??
yea i am pretty torn because you know how breakups are .. and either you confess your love to the other person and they take you back or you play hard to get, pretend youve moved on, and hopefully they will want you back eventually .. its tough and i have high pride and im stubborn so im trying to keep limited contact with him but stil show him i care .. but seriulsi i did so much for him … what wil lit take for him to realize that i gave up so much for him?? why do always want something we cant have you know?? .. so i guess i have to make it seem like he can never have me back and that hes missing out on one hell of a girl .. and thats exactly what i will do !
The only thing you can do is give it time and hope he grows up…keep on working on yourself, but do it for you, not for him. You don’t want him back now….he flat out told you he wants to be young and play the field, that is just asking for the boy to cheat on you. Go on with life, try to be happy and hold onto the fact that one day when he is sick of trying to get a piece of ho ass late at night while hes drunk, and he realizes he is lonely and wants a real relationship…He is going to think of you! Now, lets just say that you don’t care if he is going to cheat on you, …..you just want him back, then you need to have a very good friend slap you, and move you across town to get a life….because you have got to get over this.
Advice on getting my ex boyfriend back?
Im still in love with him but he is dating a guy(he is bisexual) and i want him back. He still gets jealous when i bring up other guys but he wont break up with his new boyfriend for me. Any advice on how to get him back? Please. im desperate. i need him.
How can I get my ex boyfriend back?
My ex boyfriend and I were on good terms and I was in his life. He doesn’t want to see anyone else, but he doesn’t want a relationship either. I stopped talking to him a couple weeks ago, thinking he’ll miss me and want a relationship. Am I doing the right thing by not talking to him and giving him zero attention? I need advice on what to do to get him back. What will make him want to pursue a relationship again with me? What makes guys want someone?
First of all, just be yourself. Go out have fun with your friends. Don’t sit at home and mope. You may even want to start dating again. No serious relationships but go out on a few dates. When your ex sees that you are capable of having a life without him and that other men find you attractive he may just wise up and realize that he is losing something great.
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Advice on how to get an ex boyfriend back?
We started dating when I was 15, him 16. He was the boyfriend that every girl dreams of. I had 100% of his attention everyday, he showered me with gifts, he was protective over me, his eyes never were on another girl, and I knew every day that he loved me. When I was 18, (still a virgin), I felt uncomfortable with the idea of having sex with a guy (he did NOT push it on me), but I wanted to experiment with girls. I didn’t want to tell him this though, because I myself didn’t even understand it nor did I want to talk about it, but I broke up with him and I broke his heart. He would not let me go, so I lied to him and told him I was with someone else and that I thought I was pregnant. He still held on, but I was so mean to him. We stopped talking for over a year, but then when I was around 20 I got a hold of him (just in as a friend), and we’ve talked on and off since. Lately though, I have been focusing more on my future and recently lost a man who was like my 2nd father, and I’ve been turning to my ex a lot lately. I miss him a lot and I know he still loves me, but I never told him the truth and I don’t know if I should. I think it may just re-hurt him all over again. And I know most guys like the whole girl with a girl thing, but for him that wouldn’t make a difference. I just have a lot of regrets and wish I would’ve told him way sooner but now I don’t know if it’s too late and if I should just stop myself right now from clinging on/wanting him back. And even though I know he still loves me, I don’t know if he’d ever trust me enough to be with me again. Any advice?
Advice on how to get my ex boyfriend back?
My ex and i dated for 3 years and 4 months, we’re both 17 years old and we live right down the street from each other. We were each others first boyfriend/girlfriend/first kiss/first love. first everything. He told me every single day that he loved me, even the night before we broke up. He said we should take some time off from seeing each other because he felt like his life is going crazy and he didn’t want me to get dragged into it. Well, last night and tonight, my friend and i were outside and he started to walk his dog (HE NEVER WALKS HIS DOG) and this was at around 11:00 pm both nights, kind of late. He walked past us about 3 times and he looked at me a few times. Could that mean he wanted to see me? How could i get him to miss me or want to talk to me? (we have NOT spoken to eachother since we broke up, but he said happy birthday to me) PLEASE HELPI WANT HIM BACK.
Dear loveyou,
It sounds like you have a great chance to get you ex-boyfriend back!
But you should be careful about how you approach him, make sure that he wants you back at LEAST as much as you want him, and make sure that he commits to you once and for all so you guys never break up again. Fortunately, this can be done very quickly, especially in your situation. In fact, you can get him to ask YOU back.
If you aren’t sure about all the reasons that your boyfriend gave you when you guys broke up, then you will need to learn a bit about male psychology. Usually, what you think guys mean and what they actually mean are two opposite things! You’ll put a lot of unanswered questions to rest if you understand this. You’ll also figure out what you could do next time to get him to trust you and want you CLOSER to him in stressful times, not away from him.
Did you know that guys are just as emotional as girls under the right circumstances? You can use that in your favor to spark the same feeling in your ex as you feel for him now, even stronger. Like I said, the best way to get your ex-boyfriend back is to have him apologize and beg you to take him back – that’s how you know he’ll stay! (I know you don’t need the apology since you love him so much, but it’s nice to know that he cares and that he’ll NEVER leave again.)
There are very specific steps that you can take to re-ignite the spark of love in your boyfriend’s heart, to literally get him addicted to you so he’ll never leave again, and to be more aware of how you act towards him so that you don’t inadvertantly push him away. Unfortunately, all of the information on how to accomplish this can’t fit in my answer, it would require an entire book (albeit a short one). Fortunately, there IS a book that teaches exactly what you are looking for, and it can be found here: http://tinyurl.com/your-ex-boyfriend-back
While usually people have around an 80-85% chance of getting their ex back (if they know what they’re doing), in your case, I think you have the whole 100%! Why? Because your ex-boyfriend said happy birthday to you, because he noticed you when walking his dog (he definitely did notice you), and that means you are in his thoughts. But wait! Don’t just go up to him and blab out how you feel, you could end up misinterpreting his feelings and accidentally turning him off to you, pushing him away for a whole two years – that’s the time it takes for human attraction to “reset” after a bad experience – and you don’t want to take that risk. Make sure that you go slowly, step by step, and you can have him back, for good, in about two weeks.
I wish you the best of luck and I’m SURE that you will succeed!
Best regards,
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how to get an ex boyfriend back? advice pleasee?!?
My ex and i broke up almost 2 months ago because he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore (we went out of over a year). Since we go to the same college we still saw each other and acted as if we were going out at times and talking about getting back together but never did we just continued to hang out. Its summer now and i havnt seen him in about 2 weeks. i know i need to give him space but i miss him so much and really believe that we can have a second chance. Any advice besides moving on because i am trying my best but deep down i believe we can work things out. PLEASE HELP!
if he doesnt want it, its not going to happen sorry darling. guys suck in that way.
you could always try acting like you dont care and “dating” someone else to see if he gets jealous. thats how i got my ex back. he’d get so jealous that he called me and was like “you cant date that creep….you belong with me” little did he know that “creep” i dated was one of my gay friends haha